Dear sitahim,
You have mentioned the following lines reveived from the Buyer......
Once your item arrives in satisfactory condition,
please leave POSITIVE feedback for me. I will do the
same for you.
I think these lines are not created by the Seller but from a standard format provided by ebay. The Seller has just added POSITIVE before the feedback.
So, if you read those lines carefully you will find that the Seller has tried to be more positive in dealing.
The original lines to me seems to be more threatening. That's because it means that the Seller would leave a POSITIVE for a POSITIVE & a NEGATIVE for a NEGATIVE.
Further, some of you have pointed out, as to who should leave the rating first.
ebay doesn't force and would never force either the Buyer or the Seller to leave FEEDBACK first.
My thinking is that the sequence should be as follows:-
1. Buyer pays money.
2. Seller ships the Item.
3. If the Buyer is satisfied....he should leave a +ve first ( thats because he has got value for money and there is no reason why he shouldn't leave a +ve for the Seller)
4. If the Buyer is not satisfied....he shouldn't leave a -ve without contacting the Seller. Buyer & Seller can always sort out differences and sincere Sellers would always be ready to solve the problem).
5. If the Seller is not ready the solve the problem, Buyer may file a SNAD dispute against the Seller. Thus, the feedback doesn't remain a issue if the Buyer gets back his money ( or the Seller solves his problem ).
6. Once the issue is solved, the Buyer can always leave a +ve and maintain a healthy relation with the Seller.
7. To close the deal, the Seller can leave a +ve feedback for the Buyer.
Let there be no blackmail or extortion.........Lets make ebay a lovely platform, full of FUN.
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best regards
Umang Midha